​​​My Story 

 

If someone had told me 20 years ago I’d one day become a dating coach, I would’ve laughed out loud—or more likely, stared at you in silence and run away (true story).

 

I grew up in an ultra-religious, conspiracy-obsessed, and extremely violent adoptive home where dating wasn’t just discouraged—it was off the radar entirely. I wasn’t allowed to think about love, let alone practice how to find it. By the time I escaped at 19, I was isolated, emotionally shut down, and, quite literally, didn’t know how to talk to boys. I had survived trauma, head injuries, and psychological isolation. Dating? That felt like a language I didn’t speak.

 

But I had something powerful: I was a relentless romantic at heart. 

 

I Became My Own Teacher

 

After landing in New York City with nothing but a backpack and a Craigslist room, I decided it was time to figure out this “love” thing. I devoured every relationship book I could find. I went to workshops. I studied psychology, coaching, communication, healing. I invested my heart, energy, and savings in learning how to date with dignity, depth, and joy.

 

Eventually, I trained with the Relationship Coaching Institute and became a certified coach. I became a IAPC&M Certified Coach and started helping others navigate the confusing, often painful world of modern dating—with clarity, heart, and humor.

 

Today, My Life Is Full of Love

 

I’m now married to the love of my life—someone who was also doing the deep personal work to find me. I have a chosen family, a life I adore, and a mission that moves me to my core: helping people build the kind of relationships they once thought were out of reach.

My story proves that love isn’t just for the lucky. Love is for the brave, the ones willing to do the work, heal the old wounds, and open their hearts again and again.

 

My Work

 

I coach individuals and couples who want to transform their dating patterns, elevate their standards, and create real, lasting love. My approach is soulful, practical, and rooted in real-life experience. My book, The 5 G.R.E.A.T. Laws of Dating, offers a framework I use in my private coaching, workshops, and retreats. It’s more than a system—it’s a mindset shift.

 

You don’t need to be perfect to find love.
You just need to be willing.

 

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The love you seek is seeking you - Rumi 

Let’s get you ready for the moment you meet it.

 

—Ivy